I need to change my title from StressedMum to horrible Mum as according to my Daughter that is exactly what I am a horrible Mum today. Being a parent certainly is not easy.
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Parenting
We are pretty laid back parents with our Daughter. She is good and does not (well yet anyway), cause us too many problems. We are however strict where homework etc comes in.
Everyday, it is the same conversations about homework. Have you got any? When does it need to be in by? What have you got to do? We have even brought her a white board and put it up, and I marked it Monday – Friday. The rule is if she has homework I want it done 2 days before it is due in. That way she is spreading it out and then does not need to stress about it the night before.
Being prepared
The same with sorting her books out for school. I ask her to do it the night before, so she is not rushing about in the mornings and forgetting things.
You would think this was easy and straight forward. Well not to my nearly 12 year old it is not. I lost it with her last night, I was so angry.
She was trying to do 2 different pieces of homework (same subject). This should have been done over the past 2-3 weeks. I should have known as I am apparently a mind reader and not just a mum.
It looked rubbish and rushed. I did lose it with her I came down hard as she has to learn. Everyone hates homework, I used to hate homework. But it is there for a reason and whether she likes it or not it has to be done.
She knows if she gets a detention at school for anything in her control, she will get consequences at home, ie homework not being done etc.
As I am a horrible Mum, I took her iPad away from her, she can get it back tonight after she has done her homework and sorted her bag out.
Children need to learn and take responsibilities for their actions. She knew about the homework, but did not do it. We had a long chat and now has a white board with the days she gets the homework and the date it is to be handed in by.
Have a feeling I am going to quite like being a horrible Mum, I can be a Proud Mum too. I just do not get her attitude though, surely it is best to get everything done and out of the way.
I remember calling my mum all sorts of names when I was a teenager. I told her I hated her, I’ve told her I rather be an orphan and many more horrible stuff. And I know the reason wasn’t justified, She was only trying to make me into a responsible adult and had every reason to be upset at me. Back then I was egocentric and I just hated anyone who tried to control me. But it’s all normal behaviours for a teen and it’s not until I’m a mum when I realise how hard it is to be a mum and why it is very normal for us to lose it sometimes. Parenting doesn’t seem hard when you’re a teen- parents just seem controlling and we seem to believe we have it all under control even when we don’t
I was a horrible teenager as well, sadly we didn’t really get a lot of the teenage grieft as she fell ill at the start of secondary school and now 18, so we escaped, which is so sad
We all have these kind of days ! Tomorrow will be beautiful