A high self-esteem is more vital in life than most of us think and can be developed all the way from infancy. Children with high self-esteem feel accepted and loved by those around them, they feel confident in their own abilities and believe in themselves. This allows them to take risks and try new things. On the other hand, children who have low self-esteem will sadly have negative thoughts of themselves and dwell on their failings rather than being proud of their successes.
Help your child to develop a ‘growth mind-set’. This method of positive thinking can support children through some of life’s setbacks or challenges. Children with a growth mind-set believe that their abilities will improve over time and acknowledge that mistakes can also be used as learning opportunities.
Try to give your child more responsibility and start to let them make their own choices. This could mean asking your child to help with some simple jobs around the house, such as cooking dinner or taking the dog for a walk or choosing what they want for dinner. This will increase their feelings of competency and help to develop their confidence. By offering your child choices, you can help them to feel empowered and improve their decision-making skills.
Praising your child is a fantastic way to boost your child’s confidence, but it has to be completely sincere, otherwise it will start to lose its meaning. When they do something that you approve or that makes you proud, let them know. However, you should always focus your praise on the effort that goes into something, rather than the finished result. This will help encourage similar behaviour going forward and stop them being disheartened if they don’t get full marks on a test.
Above all, your child needs to know that they are loved, supported and respected 100% of the time.