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9 Ways to Take Back Your Evenings

Are you tired of feeling like all you do is work, take care of other people, and sleep? There are all kinds of reasons you may not feel like you’re getting the most out of your evenings. Work is a necessity for most people, and for those with kids, taking care of them is akin to a full time job. Looking after yourself when you’re rushing around to get things done day after day is vital to your health and happiness. Many people neglect themselves, begin to think that they are not as important, and sooner or later, problems can arise. This might be chronic stress, a lowered immune system, or even depression for not spending time doing the things you like to do.

If you’d like more time to yourself and you’re fed up of not getting it, one thing you can do is make the evening time yours again. Here are 9 ways you can do this:

Be Strict About Bed Time 

If you have kids, making sure you are strict about bed time is one of the only ways to enjoy a few uninterrupted hours in the evening. This doesn’t mean they won’t get out of bed or call you for any reason (some kids always look for an excuse), but it does mean they will be more likely to get used to it in the long run. Make sure they have their own bed time routine, for example, bathe, pyjamas, hot milk, and story in bed before sleeping. With a nice routine and a consistent time, they should fall asleep with no problems. 

It’s also a good idea to make sure you’re strict with your own bed time. If you know how much sleep you need, make sure you know the ideal time for you to get into bed, giving yourself enough time to fall asleep in the process. This will make you feel even better the next day, and you’ll be able to plan your evenings more effectively when you know what time you’re sleeping. 

Leave Work at Work 

Depending on the job you do, it can be tough to leave work at work. However, it’s so important if you want some time to yourself. Turn off your email/phone notifications as soon as you’ve finished, and do something that will help you to switch mindsets. Switching from your ‘work’ mindset to your ‘relax’ mindset can be tough, but a trigger can help. Could it be a nice mug of herbal tea, a bath, or something else you enjoy? 

Set The Scene

Setting the scene for the evening can help so much with your mindset. As we mentioned, some people find it harder than others to switch mindsets when work is over. If you can set the scene, you’ll have an easier time of it. Dim the lights, spray a nice room spray, and maybe play some relaxing music as you make a nice evening meal. This can work whether you go to work somewhere else or work at home. Working at home can make it even more difficult to separate yourself, but it’s not impossible. One trick is to purchase a bureau so you can simply hide all of your work materials and laptop when the day is over. When you can’t see all of your work gear staring you in the face, you’ll be less likely to do some late night work! 

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Plan Your Evenings 

Make sure you plan your evenings, the same as you would your day schedule. If you don’t plan them, they can feel messy and unfulfilling. It can be nice to have a stretch of time where you make up your own rules, but if you don’t come up with a plan you may not end up doing anything you wanted to do. For example, you could plan to read for an hour or two, before doing a little yoga and then heading to bed. Alternatively, you could make a balanced meal, watch one episode of a good show, take a bath, and read in bed until it’s time to sleep. Different routines work for different people. 

Find Ways To Relax 

If you really struggle to wind down, make sure you explore various options available to you. A nice, warm bath with salts can be super relaxing, especially if you can take a bath tray in with you and enjoy a nice drink and pamper. Some people even take their tablets in the bath so they can watch something soothing before bed. Herbal tea is great, and some people swear by full spectrum cbd. There’s also 5-htp if you struggle to get a good quality of sleep. 

Identify Your Time Wasters

There are all kinds of time wasters that will happily eat up your evenings if you’re not careful. Social media can be a great way to catch up with friends, but you can easily waste your time scrolling on it. Watching TV can be good if there’s a show you enjoy, but too much trash TV and you could easily just call it escapism. If watching TV is the only hobby you have, try to figure out what else you could do. Perhaps you could try drawing or painting instead. 

Learn To Put Boundaries In Place 

There are always going to be people who want something from you. Understanding when to say yes and when to say no can be tough. Try to get in touch with your gut. If you really don’t want to do something, don’t feel obligated to say yes. It’s time to put yourself first for a change. 

Split Up Essential Chores

Instead of trying to do the entire house tidy in one evening, split it up across the week. This way, you’ll have more time to do your own things. You can’t get away from chores, but a little each day does add up. 

Get In Touch With Your Mind and Body

See if you can use this as an opportunity to get back in touch with your mind and body. Practices such as meditation and yoga can be amazing when done in the evening.

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  • lyndsey cooksey
    26th March 2021 at 8:10 pm

    Lots of great ideas here. Im guilty when it comes to taking work home. I dont switch off and its late then when I do have time for meyself.

    • admin
      29th March 2021 at 10:06 am

      It is easy to fall into that trap, I switch off now about 5ish as was working stupd hours at one time

  • Fiona+jk42
    26th March 2021 at 8:38 pm

    I had found that I was staying at my PC later and later each evening, and then not getting to bed till the early hours.I was then getting up later and later each day. I now set myself a deadline of 9pm, and try to make sure I’m in bed by midnight.

    • admin
      29th March 2021 at 10:04 am

      It is easy to get into the habit of being on your PC and losing track of the time, I switch mine off around 5 now. Although I do still have my phone

  • lyndsey cooksey
    26th March 2021 at 10:00 pm

    Lots of great ideas here. I must admit I have been brining work home and I just dont relax, which meakes me irritable.

    • admin
      29th March 2021 at 10:02 am

      I work from home but have learnt to switch off my laptop at around 5 and not pick it up until the next day

  • Chloe
    28th March 2021 at 2:32 pm

    Great blog, sound good tips to relax and make the most of your evenings! 🙂

  • Michael Fisher
    30th March 2021 at 7:06 am

    All brilliant suggestions that work


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