Marriage – Yes or No?

I read an interesting article the other day about marriage.  All about what it means to people these days.  Is marriage important or is it a thing of the past. Do we need to get married now.

Married At 24

I married my first husband when I was 24 , and had the huge white wedding. The bridesmaids, the page boy and ushers the huge dress, the big reception, the whole works. We settled into married life but it was not a happy marriage.  I was mentally abused in my marriage, and went from someone who knew my own mind, to someone who was totally different. One day I had enough and could not take any more, and we split up and a very messy divorce followed. I did try to keep it as amicable as possible, by looking for a lawyer specifically about filing for divorce.

I read an interesting article the other day about marriage, and what it means to people now and is it a thing of the past. Do we need to get married now.

I first married when I was 24 I had the huge white wedding, the bridesmaids, the page boy and ushers the huge dress, the big reception, the whole works. We settled into married life but it was not a happy marriage and we were married for 7 years.  I was mentally abused I went from someone who knew my own mind to someone who was totally different, one day I had enough and we split up and a very messy divorce followed.

I Got Married Again

In time I met my now husband, we had both had past relationships.  We were very happy, when one day we decided to get married. We both wanted a  small wedding, totally different from our first weddings. Our wedding day was perfect and just how we wanted it. 16 years on and 13 years married, he has made me leave my previous scars behind, and brought me back to the person I used to be. Also giving me the most precious gift anyone can give. Our beautiful daughter and 2 lovely stepsons.

I know we would still have the same relationship if we had not married. To me marriage is important, I feel proud to say I am his wife.

We have friends who are not married and been together a long time and have children and they are just as happy and have no intentions of getting married.

I also have friends who have had to get married for various reasons, they are happy and would have been just as happy if they had stayed unmarried, but legal reasons forced their hand really.

The response this article got what quite surprising with how everyone felt, some people thought if you were in a committed long term relationship, you should be married.  Others felt that why should they be pressured by society into marriage.

To me I could not care less if someone was married or not, it is a personal choice.

What do you think about marriage?

Do you think it should still be valued or do you think it is up to the individuals?

Does it change how you feel about someone who is not married when they have a family?

I am intrigued really to see how others feel as I was quite shocked

Finding Mr Right

I met my now husband and we had both been through messy past relationships and were very happy. One day we decided to get married. We had a small wedding totally different and it was perfect. 16 years on and 13 years married.  He has got me back to the person I used to be. And he has given me the most precious gift anyone can give, our beautiful daughter and 2 lovely stepsons.

What I think of marriage

I know we would still have the same relationship if we were not married. Nut to me it is important, I feel proud to say I am his wife. Being married and a wife and a mum really does complete me.

I have friends who are not married and been together a long time. They have children and they are just as happy and have no intentions of getting married.

I also have friends who have had to get married for various reasons, they are happy and would have been just as happy if they had stayed unmarried, but legal reasons forced their hand really.

The response this article got what quite surprising with how everyone felt, some people thought if you were in a committed long term relationship, you should be married.  Others felt that why should they be pressured by society into marriage.

To me I could not care less if someone was married or not, it is a personal choice.

What do you think about marriage?

Do you think it should still be valued or do you think it is up to the individuals?

Does it change how you feel about someone who is not married when they have a family?

I am intrigued really to see how others feel as I was quite shocked