It is the first of October which means it is time for Blogtober 2020. Which is where as a Blogger along with other great Bloggers, I will write a post on a different subject each day.
Today the theme for Blogtober 2020 is This is me.
So this is me, I am Sam 53 and live in Surrey with my husband, daughter and two dogs. I started my blog StressedMum when C was about to finish Primary School and I had more time on my hands. At the time I did not know then how things would change.
I am also a ‘wicked’ stepmum to two grown up boys. I have a great relationship with them and have been in their lives for 21 years. No matter what it is, it is always me they contact or come to, so I can not be that bad of a stepmum.
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My Life
My Daughter C who is 16 became ill 5 years ago, after getting Glandular Fever whilst on holiday. She started her first term in Secondary school before collapsing on us on New Years Eve. Since then she has suffered ME, Fibromyalgia and IIH. Luckily I have my blog and can work from home and around her and appointments etc.
It is tough and heartbreaking, especially looking at what her old school friends are doing. C is a tough cookie though and brushes it off, most of the time.
Being Grandparents
Our two boys have made us Grandparents, and I love being a Nanny to 3 under 3 year olds. I love spoiling them, playing with them and the best bit is I can go home and have a peaceful evening. There is nothing nicer than hearing the word Nanny. When you have your own children you experience a love you never knew, having grandchildren is amazing. C was mortified at becoming an Auntie at 13 but she loves her role now and they have an amazing bond together.
Enjoying Life
We are very lucky to have my parents on hand to give us both a break so we can enjoy evenings out with friends. Or recently able to go away for a week to recharge our batteries. It is tough being parents of a child with a chronic illness and although some people judge us for having time away. We also need this time so we can be the parents she needs.
That is a small insight into who I am, don’t forget to come back tomorrow where the prompt is The One I Love.
50 Comments
Mandi Morrison
1st October 2020 at 10:58 amWelcome to Blogtober20! So lovely to have you with us,it’s been far too long catching up with what’s been going on with everyone!
So sorry to hear that C is still no better, and I totally agree you need time away to recharge, I can’t remember the last time A and I had anytime away from the children and it certainly takes its toll if you through chronic illness or additional needs into the mix.
I think grandchildren will be a while away for me yet, but it does sound like lots of fun!
Looking forward to reading more during October.
admin
1st October 2020 at 12:48 pmI love Blogtober and trying to be positive to complete it this year. We did need the time away. We have another although not technically ours but will be treated that way due in November but she may come early, so looking forward to newborn cuddles soon x
Kim Carberry
1st October 2020 at 11:27 amI feel like I have followed your blog for years. I hope C is doing OK. Good luck with the rest of Blogtober x
admin
1st October 2020 at 12:46 pmIt has been a long time, we are just waiting on new meds to come through which will hopefully improve things. Look forward to catching up during Blogtober
Anne
1st October 2020 at 11:37 amLovely to meet you. I’m a Mum of two over 30 yr olds (oh that hurts to say, lol) but I still don’t have grandkids so I’m always a bit jealous. My youngest is only 10 though so life is still kiddy fun sometimes. I’m sorry to hear about your daughter, my girl’s problems started when she was 7 and she’s 15 now.x
admin
1st October 2020 at 12:45 pmLovely to meet you both our boys are still in their 20’s although a shock at first we love being grandparents x
JH Jackson
1st October 2020 at 11:54 amLooking forward to your posts this year.
admin
1st October 2020 at 12:44 pmI am looking forward into reading everyones posts as well
Treasure Every Moment
1st October 2020 at 12:01 pmWhat a wonderful and honest insight into your life – thank you very much for sharing 🙂
admin
1st October 2020 at 12:44 pmThank you x
Natalie
1st October 2020 at 12:47 pmI am new to your blog, but I look forward to reading it for Blogtober and beyond. It’s nice to “meet” you!
admin
1st October 2020 at 1:00 pmNice to meet you and hope you enjoy my blog x
Tina Bailey
1st October 2020 at 1:28 pmWelcome to #Blogtober – I follow you on social but had somehow missed C having ME. From one special needs mum to another… do not feel guilty for taking time out. xx
admin
1st October 2020 at 2:45 pmShe is in her 5th year now, with everything going on everything is being done via phone appointments including a new neurogist who we spoke to last week. I agree about not feeling guilty although I can not help it
Jupiter Hadley
1st October 2020 at 1:42 pmWhat a lovely introduction! It’s so great you’ve been able to recharge recently.
admin
1st October 2020 at 2:44 pmThank you, and we definitely needed the break x
Amy
1st October 2020 at 1:53 pmI’m new to your blog too so only just learning about you, but what an inspiration you are. I’m sorry to hear your daughter is ill, she sounds like a very tough cookie.
Looking forward to seeing more of your Blogtober posts 🙂
admin
1st October 2020 at 2:43 pmAww thank you, she is a tough little cookie her stubborn streak from when she was little must be helping now x
Jenny Lord
1st October 2020 at 2:35 pmGreat to hear how you’re doing, looking forward to reading your posts over blogtober.
admin
1st October 2020 at 2:43 pmI have just seen you are taking part as well 🙂
Sarah Bailey
1st October 2020 at 4:46 pmI hope you have an awesome time doing Blogtober, it will be lots of fun following you through the month. It was great to get to know a little more about you.
admin
1st October 2020 at 7:02 pmThank you, I am hopeful to actually complete the challenge this year. I have up to day 7 scheduled so far 🙂
Peter Lomax
1st October 2020 at 6:16 pmI love Blogtober! I am not taking part but Love all the daily content.
It’s nice to get to know you as I have been reading your blog for a while but probably not long enough to know the person behind the blog x
admin
1st October 2020 at 7:01 pmI love Blogtober and do try to complete the challenge each year, but this year I am trying to be super organised and schedule posts in advance. I hope you enjoy my daily posts x
Kelly
1st October 2020 at 7:38 pmI think we all need our time away from the kids to recharge and come back energised so hope you’re not made to feel too bad !!
admin
2nd October 2020 at 8:46 amI agree it is me feeling bad as she is bedbound and it is unfair on her
Madeline Littlejohns
1st October 2020 at 9:35 pmLovely to get to know a bit about you and your family. Looking forward to reading more throughout blogtober! x
admin
2nd October 2020 at 8:44 amThank you x
Natalie
1st October 2020 at 9:44 pmA great read! Sending over and gentle hugs your way and to C – I am a fellow Spoonie xx
admin
2nd October 2020 at 8:44 amThank you and gentle hugs bag x
Valerie
2nd October 2020 at 4:50 amAll parents deserve a break, I never understand why some people feel the need to judge others. I love seeing families with multiple generations that are all close.
admin
2nd October 2020 at 8:41 amI feel guilty due to her illness and being bedbound not due to judgements, we are lucky to be so close with my parents
Katie Desborough
2nd October 2020 at 8:47 amI really enjoyed reading this and love how honsst and down to earth this is. I knew a little of C already of course, but sorry to hear the specifics – I relate to how heartbreaking it is as my little girl has alot of health issues too
admin
2nd October 2020 at 10:27 amThank you, I try to keep a fine line between talking about her and her illness and shielding her x
Melanie williams
2nd October 2020 at 11:35 amThis was such a good read, I always like to read more about the blogger and what they are about…love your honesty detailing both the downs and ups xx
admin
2nd October 2020 at 12:17 pmThank you I am too honest for my own good at times x
Kacie Morgan
2nd October 2020 at 12:27 pmI can certainly relate to feeling like you don’t have time to write new posts as a blogger. This Blogtober challenge seems like a great way to make some new friends in the blogging community while also motivating yourself to write.
admin
2nd October 2020 at 12:42 pmI agree I have taken part the past few years but never finished it, I also bump into people from previous years as well and love catching up
Yeah Lifestyle
2nd October 2020 at 5:01 pmI have been following your blog now for a while but don’t know you as well, so this post has given me an insight into your life and family. Blogtober sounds like a fantastic idea too, I look forward to reading more interesting posts.
admin
3rd October 2020 at 11:08 amI have followed you for a long time now, I am looking forward to the challenge and finally completing it for once
Nayna Kanabar
2nd October 2020 at 8:12 pmI am looking forward to reading all your posts for the coming month .
admin
3rd October 2020 at 11:06 amThank you x
Rebecca Smith
2nd October 2020 at 9:25 pmAh its lovely you are taking part in Blogtober and nice to read a little more about you! Blogtober is always fun to get involved with.
admin
3rd October 2020 at 11:04 amI have taken part for a few years but never completed it for one reason or another, hopefully this year will be the year I finish it
Kara
3rd October 2020 at 7:57 pmIt is so lovely to find out more about the blogger behind the blog. It is lovely to have grandchildren around isn’t it
admin
5th October 2020 at 6:57 amIt is lovely having grandchildren, always bring a smile to my face x
Georgina @ Culinary Travels
4th October 2020 at 4:25 pmI look forward to reading your posts and learning more about you. Posting everyday for a month is really quite a challenge isn’t it?
admin
5th October 2020 at 6:52 amThank you, it is a challenge but hopefully I will complete it this year x
Rachael
6th October 2020 at 10:43 amHow lovely to have 3 under 3 on the grandparent front! I bet that is so lovely for you.
admin
6th October 2020 at 12:36 pmIt is and another one very soon as well I love it though x
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