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My Fertility Problems

My Fertility Problems

When you grow up, you always see yourself one day as a parent.  Many of us played the childhood games with our dolls where we role played being a parent. For some this is an easy and natural progression.  But for others it is a lot harder. Here I open up and talk about My Fertility Problems.

Today I am sharing with you my story and struggles to become a Mum.

I was happy being child free

In 1999 I met my husband, we had both been in previous marriages.  Mine was childless, where as he had two boys.  This was a huge leap for me, as I had been happy (or so I thought) being child free.  He knew this and one of our earliest conversations he said, his kids mean the world to him and they will always come first, and if I was not prepared for this I should say so now.  This in fact had the opposite effect on me, and made me love him more.

Meeting the boys

My husband decided I should meet the boys separately, and arranged for me to meet the eldest, who was 4 at the time first.  We hit it off straight away.  I then met the younger one who was 1 and again we hit it off.  We then moved in together and I took on the role of StepMum, where I cared for the boys and loved them as my own.

My Fertility Problems

My Journey begins

In January 2000,  had a miscarriage.  We had not been trying for a baby or even really spoke about having a child of our own.  It was a complete shock.  I took the rest of that week off work and it gave us lots of time to think about having a child of our own.  I realised this is something that I did want.

We carried on with life, during this time I would fall pregnant and then lose the baby, and each time it took a little bit more of me with each loss. I was heartbroken.

Referred to a Specialist

In 2001 my Dr referred us to a Specialist who did not have the best bedside manner and had me in tears more than once.  My husband was tested and he was fine, which sunk me into even deeper depression as it was all down to me.  I was put on Clomid, and I fell pregnant with twins (Clomid is known for this).

This resulted in one of he worst times of my life.  I had pains and was not feeling right and knew something was wrong.  My Dr was amazing and eventually said it could be an ectopic pregnancy and arranged for us to see our consultant.  I remember all the way there telling my husband they were not removing the baby, there must be some other way.  A nurse met us on arrival and I was told to do a pregnancy test.  After the test my Consultant came up to me in a waiting room full of people and said it is nothing go home, the nurse came over and said the test is positive and he said she will probably loose it anyway. I just walked out in a state of shock with my husband fuming but more concerned about me.

Losing my twins

I did unfortunately lose my baby, but the bleeding never stopped.  I was up and down the hospital all the time.  It was confirmed that I had lost one baby and looked like I was losing its twin.  From the day I lost the first baby I was bleeding constantly for 7 weeks.  I was so ill and no one would do anything apart from let me carry on and keep losing it.  Each appointment I had to sit in a room of heavily pregnant Mums while I was losing mine.  I was broken-hearted.  Eventually I lost the second baby and slowly got stronger.

Moving on

We moved house and started to plan our wedding, giving us both something positive to focus on.  After our wedding I suffered more miscarriages, where my Dr said finally enough is enough and referred us to a new Consultant. By this stage all I did was eat, sleep and breathe wanting to be a Mum.  Friends used to say you have two boys, surely that is enough.  They were right I did have the boys, and loved them as my own.  But I wanted that bond, I wanted that look I saw in my husbands eyes every time he spoke about the boys or saw them.  Something that only comes from being a parent.

I wanted to feel my baby grow inside me, to get a kick, I wanted to give birth and hold my newborn baby in my arms, and feel that unconditional love that sweeps over you.

By the time we met our new Consultant I was both a physical and mental wreck.  In January 2003 after another miscarriage.  I was told to give my body a rest, to stop trying.  I had an appointment with the Consultant for March and we both adhered to this advice.  For the first time in a long time, we forgot about having a baby and started to enjoy life again.

Was I pregnant again

In March I was chatting with the girls at work, and someone said are you sure you are not pregnant.  I just laughed and said no.  One had a spare pregnancy test at home and said she would bring it in that afternoon.  I rang my husband to tell him about the conversation, and he told me to let him know.  Eventually I did the test, and the brightest blue line you have ever seen appeared.  All my other pregnancies the line had been faint.

This was a Thursday, and I managed to get an appointment with my Dr that evening, who in turn managed to get me an appointment with our Consultant on the Monday.

He was amazing, and a George Clooney lookalike. he got me through every step of my pregnancy and was there during labour.

Eventually, after a very hard pregnancy of morning sickness, and gestational diabetes. I gave birth to my gorgeous baby girl. And I felt that rush of unconditional love and I just could not take my eyes of her for a second.

Supplements Can help

I wanted to share my story with you, to show that having fertility problems can be to do with wanting a baby too much. That it is not always down to being a fertility problem and mindset can be a major factor in it.

I did also keep taking supplements to help my body when trying for a baby and through pregnancy.

Proceive have a range of supplements suitable for both men and women or a dual pack for men and women, available at Boots

 

My Fertility Problems

 

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Comments (30)

  • Marjie Mare 7 months ago Reply

    This is an issue that so many women go through. Thanks for sharing this beautiful post with us.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you I just wanted to let others know it is not all heartbreak x

  • Ritu Sharma 7 months ago Reply

    Thanks for sharing a great information.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Than you x

  • Kayla 7 months ago Reply

    Hi,

    I’m so happy you was able to make it through your fertility problems and finally give birth to a healthy baby. Thanks for sharing your story!

    Xoxo,

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, when I held her in my arms for the first time it was worth all the heartache x

  • Dalene Ekirapa 7 months ago Reply

    I’m touched; I’ve had to interact with a couple of women who go through the same fertility issues and it’s nice to see them coming together in help groups.
    Xoxo!

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, it is so hard when facing fertility problems and it does help to know it is not just you and you are not alone x

  • Sarah Bailey 7 months ago Reply

    It must be such a hard ride go through, all the ups and downs. I am glad you got your lovely daughter at the end of it all.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, honestly I was an emotional wreck both mentally and physically but we got there in the end thankfully x

  • MELANIE EDJOURIAN 7 months ago Reply

    I know so many women that have had problems sustaining pregnancies. It’s important that we talk about the issue and spread the word so that women that are going through this know it happens often. So pleased for you that you managed to go full term x

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, as I have gone through it I understand how lonely and upsetting it is, I have often talked to friends who have gone throigh losses and if I can help someone feel they are not alone then I am happy to share my story x

  • Rebecca Smith 7 months ago Reply

    I’m so sorry you had to go through all this, it must have been such a horrible time and not helped by unsympathetic doctors x

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    That one Dr was awful if I had been in the right mind I would have stood up for myself but I just let it go and my husband was more concerned about me. My final consultant was amazing at our first meeting when I found out I was pregnant (we were due to see him about the losses) he said we will take it one week at a time and I will be here all the way x

  • Neha 7 months ago Reply

    So glad you got your dream baby in the end. Can’t have been easy but you got there and that is what you have to cherish.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, it was a very hard emotional journey but one that had a happy ending and I still look at my Daughter in awe that she is mine x

  • vidya 7 months ago Reply

    thank you for sharing this .. i know from experience how hard it is to lose a baby;
    and so glad for you for your gorgeous little girl.. she is truly adorable.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, it is hard and emotional for anyone and at times a lonely place so I hope by sharing I give hope to others going through this x

  • Razena 7 months ago Reply

    I don’t have any children of my own and cannot imagine the heartache of having so many miscarriages. I pray that your daughter remain the coolness of your eyes and the source of your joy and comfort.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, she does she really is my world x

  • Laura Doherty 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you for sharing your story so honestly, it must have been a very difficult experience for you and I hope your story helps other women to maintain hope.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, it was a very difficult and emotional journey and I am lucky to have had a happy ending, and I hope by sharing I can give hope to those currently going through this x

  • Bee 7 months ago Reply

    Sorry about the miscarriages and such a hard pregnancy journey. All I can think about right now though is that you made it through and you’re using your platform to encourage other women who might be going through the same thing.
    You’re so strong and your baby girl is a great gift

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you it was a very hard emotional journey and one I would not wish anyone to go through, but we did get through it and if I can help someone else get through their journey then I am happy to share my story x

  • Enricoh Alfonzo 7 months ago Reply

    thanks for the tips and tricks shared.
    my mom and sister would love this!

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you I hope it helps them x

  • Jen 7 months ago Reply

    I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. I’m so glad you got your baby girl in the end x

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you, if I can raise awareness and help someone going through this I am happy to share my story x

  • Nicola Lawson 7 months ago Reply

    I don’t really have any experience with fertility issues so I don’t really know what the right thing to say about that is. But what I would like to say is that, as someone who was raised by my Mum and Stepdad, being a step parent is pretty unique job and one that isn’t for everyone, so the fact you love the boys as your own makes you a pretty incredible person.

    admin 7 months ago Reply

    Thank you I obviously did ok as a StepMum as they always come to me I think it is a priviledge to be part of raising someone elses child x

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