Degenerative diseases whether physical or neurological are prevalent in elderly people. When someone we know is suffering with a disease such as dementia, is can be incredibly challenging and heartbreaking. To spend your time caring for someone that’s dealing with an illness like this is admirable and can oftentimes feel like a very lonely job. There is support out there though, for both yourself and your loved ones that you care for. Here are some things to think about when being a carer.
As someone begins to struggle with their memory, it can be difficult to keep on top of financial responsibilities, although some people do manage fine. It’s worth ensuring that those payments are set up as direct debits so that, in the case that your loved one does forget, there shouldn’t be a problem. You can also think about alerting the relevant businesses, especially those providing an essential service like water and gas, that the person paying those bills has dementia and to call you if there are any issues before cutting off their service. As a full-time carer, you may be entitled to benefits in the form of Carer’s Allowance too. If you feel it’s necessary, before their dementia degrades too far for them to be able to make important decisions, they could set up a third-party mandate allowing you to take control of their bank account to handle payments and other important things on their behalf.
Planning For The Future
It’s worth having the conversation with the person about their will to check that it’s all up to date, in preparation for their dementia getting worse. Ensure that they are happy with everything and that they’re leaving their things to the people that they want to leave them to. It might be a good idea to find a solicitor to guide them through this process and explain the situation to them as it can be a fairly complicated procedure. In terms of their illness progressing further, you might consider searching for someone to provide specialist care. Abney and Baker offer dementia care in Bath, and provide excellent, professional assistance at home so that your loved one can remain comfortable in a familiar place. Expert help can also help to prevent you getting overwhelmed as a carer.
Support For Yourself
No matter how strong someone is, watching a family member succumb to memory loss and become confused or angry is never easy. It can have a deep impact on your mental health and being a carer can also be physically exhausting too. Don’t overlook your own health or you’ll find that providing that same level of care will become much more difficult. You might feel sadness, guilt, and even anger as you struggle to come to terms with the suffering of your loved one. It’s okay to feel these things but it’s important to think about why you’re feeling them. Group therapy and one-on-one counseling with trained professionals can be a real lifeline for carers. Speaking to someone that understands the trauma and pain of watching those you care about struggling with dementia can feel like a relief and can help to beat that feeling of being alone.