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How to help those with Dementia

Like for many of us, we all know someone who has suffered with Dementia.  It is something I personally find very hard to deal with.  I can cope with most things and will pull my sleeves up and get on with it.  But I do find Dementia one of the hardet things to deal with.

I thought my Dad had started suffering with Dementia after he had a TIA.  Before this he was very independant and very astute he could account for every penny in his bank account.  When he had his TIA, he changed, he now has no interest in anything financial.  This is from paying bills to shopping.  I took over when their credit card got declined as he had not paid the bill.  He now has no idea what he has in his accounts, what he is spending on his credit card or how much his bills are.  I sort out the bills, paying the credit card, making sure the car is taxed and insured.

His personality has changed as well, he gets confused with names, and you can ask him a simple question and he gets very angry.  Luckily we can tell him to stop shouting, and have a laugh calling him Mr Grumpy.  But behind the laughter is tears and the longing for my Dad back.

Whether he has Dementia or it is just the results of the TIA we do not know.  We have not got him tested as to be honest he copes ok.  With things he can not do myself or my husband are there to sort it.

Those who have a loved one with Dementia, can find it hard, but there is help at hand to make the lives of both the sufferer and also the person who is caring for them.

Domiciliary Care

I have not heard of this before, but there is something called Domiciliary Care, where sufferers can remain living independently at home. It is often the first choice for people who require extra help with day to day tasks.

For example, general domiciliary care services can help with

  • Personal hygiene
  • Food preparation
  • Household chores
  • Companionship
  • Shopping and running errands

For those with a higher dependency of needs they can also have help with

  • Managing medication
  • Mobility around the home
  • Catheter and stoma care
  • Managing specialist medical equipment
  • Feeding regis including PEG and dysphagia

Some people may only need someone to come in once a week, or a couple of times a week.  Where as some will need a full time carer.

Domiciliary care can also help

You can also get domiciliary care for people of all ages and care needs

  • The elderly
  • Recoverying from an illness or surgery
  • Those who are recuperating from surgery
  • People with a mental health condition
  • Those undergoing rehabilitation
  • People with physical disabilities
  • Those with sensory impairment
  • People with high dependency needs

I had no idea that there was this service available, and nice to know that I can rely on specialist help in the future if I need too.

Have you ever used domiciliary care?

How to help those with Dementia



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  • Carly Belsey
    20th April 2021 at 5:09 am

    Oh it’s very sad isn’t it. My grandad was the same. He used to forget my name and just call me something silly to disguise it, that’s how it started. Such a cruel disease but thank god your dad has you to help him manage.

    • admin
      20th April 2021 at 10:14 am

      It is a very cruek disease and heartbreaking more so for those around x

  • Nigel Soper
    21st April 2021 at 9:34 pm

    For a number of years I was privileged to help out a research project into dementia. The nurses on the project were convinced that there often was a major event that occurred around the start of noticeable dementia. Sometimes it would be medical such as a TIA or heart attack, sometimes it was an emotional shock such as loosing a partner. With my father it was the death of one of my brothers in a motorbike accident. I’m not sure if anyone knows if the major event causes or accelerates the start of dementia or if the major event is too much to cope with for someone with mild dementia that has not been noticed before.

    • admin
      22nd April 2021 at 10:08 am

      I am sorry to hear about your brother, but I did not know that a TIA or heart attach or even stress could bring this on. My dad changed once he had his TIA and we have just assumed that is why


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