Living with A Chronic Illness

Don’t Stress About Education

Here we are in Lockdown 3 straight into 2021.  Cases are rising and it is the only sensible way to try to fight this and start to get a bit of normality back in our lives.

I have seen so many posts about children and their education, how it is suffering, how they are falling behind.  I am here to tell you to stop stressing.

My Story

As many of you will know this time 5 years ago C became ill with a chronic illness.  She could no longer cope with school, we tried everything from late starts,  two lessons a day, you think of it we tried it.  Unfortunately, she could not cope and the more we tried, the more of a crash she went into.

She had just started Secondary School, and had settled in well.  Her school reports were great, she was in top classes, and teachers always had a good word to say about her.

When you are too ill for school

We had meetings with school and C had home tuition, and when well enough had her tuition in school with her tutors. Due to her illness, we often had to cancel.

As a parent, we worried about her falling behind, about her education or lack of it.  The mental health effects it would have on her.  I am not going to lie I have had many sleepless nights and shed many tears over this.

Older years

C should now be in year 12, 6th form, the sad part is she is not.  She can not access education like a child without an illness.  Cruel but true, we have had to put in for an EHCP which was refused and paid out to appeal.  Our council backed down and after a meeting yesterday (via zoom), which C was there for and got very upset.  We now have to wait until 26th January for the outcome.

With the current situation your child is learning, they are getting support from school. This is something that has never been available to children with illness.  Does it matter if they miss a lesson in maths, or did not read that book.  They will catch up.

I have stopped the worrying

I look at C, she is not stupid, she is pretty bright considering all she has gone through.  We are now looking at GCSE courses and courses for her.

Your child will be ok, they will pick up and not fall behind, remember everyday is an adventure and they will learn something even from making a cake, or drawing a picture.

Don't Stress About Education

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About Author

I am Sam and owner of StressedMum, I hope you enjoyed reading my latest post, I always love to read comments from my readers


  • Ali - We Made This Life
    6th January 2021 at 9:59 pm

    Wow I’m so sorry C didn’t get the support she deserved through the local education system. it is very much a one size fits all system which just isn’t good enough these days. When I was younger I was very ill and missed a big chunk of school. I was told simply to “catch up” which of course I couldn’t do, I had missed too much. I went on to get straight A’s in my GCSEs so it didn’t do me too much harm in the end, I’m sure C will do brilliantly.

    • admin
      7th January 2021 at 9:59 am

      It is very one sided and now there is a pandemic it is such an important thing to get education sorted, which I agree it is. But before this it really didn’t seem that important to those children who were suffering an illness. She will be fine and hopefully will get her EhCP in place to give her the support she needs

  • Rhian Westbury
    7th January 2021 at 2:42 pm

    I’m so sorry that C hasn’t got the support and education that she deserves and should get. But you’re right kids are resilient and will continue to learn even if it’s not through traditional education x

    • admin
      7th January 2021 at 4:35 pm

      It is just another constant battle we go through with children with illness. But even more so now many parents need to realise the kids will be ok

  • Karen Langridge
    7th January 2021 at 4:31 pm

    I think many of us need to read more posts like this and hearing it will be okay! It’s quite easy to feel overwhelmed with so much to juggle. But I like that you say there is value in other things however small they may seem 🙂 I wish C had been given more support, you have been through a lot x

    • admin
      7th January 2021 at 4:34 pm

      I felt I had to write this post, as I have been there with the worry and frustration, but unlike now with many going through it, I was a small voice. It will be ok they will not suffer

  • Anosa
    7th January 2021 at 7:42 pm

    I can only imagine what parents must be going through stressing about their kid’s education but glad a fellow parent like you is giving them encouragement.

    • admin
      8th January 2021 at 9:59 am

      Thank you, it is natural to stress and worry as a parent

  • Yeah Lifestyle
    7th January 2021 at 8:47 pm

    I think a lot of parents including myself stress a lot about education and the lack of it especially during lockdown. Hearing your experiences just puts some perspective into it

    • admin
      8th January 2021 at 9:59 am

      It is only natural as a parent to stress about it, but the kids will be fine


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