Ask a single parent what it’s like to raise a child, and you’ll hear words like “exhilarating,” “exhausting,” and “intense.” But one term almost all parents will use sooner or later is “challenging.” This post is written with those people in mind. You’ll find useful tips for anyone who finds him or herself flying solo when it comes to rearing a child. Let’s start with a topic to which everyone can relate to.
Budget matters can hit single parents especially hard. One reason is that they must figure out how to make one income do the work once done by two, a fact pointed out by writers for Quicken. We have no magic formula for making cash appear (not that we’re willing to share, anyway), but we have some tips on how to make ends meet:
Put your creativity to work. Is eating out beyond your budget? Learn how to make your kid’s favorite restaurant dishes at home with recipes available online. Is the price of a
night at the movies a bit steep these days? You’ll find free family-friendly films on YouTube. Microwave some popcorn, and you’ve got a theater-worthy experience for a bargain-basement price.
Never use money as a weapon. Some ex-couples use financial matters to play tit for tat with each other. This is destructive and cruel, particularly when kids find themselves caught in the middle.
Give yourself a break. Tormenting yourself with guilt over things you can’t give your family will only hurt you and those you love. If you’re doing what you can to provide for your loved ones, then you have every reason in the world to hold your head up high.
Often the most valuable advice is the least glamorous. Simply getting organized has plenty to offer single parents for the following reasons:
Structure and routine are essential for a child’s mental development, according to family and child therapist Kathy Eugster. It helps them give order to their world, provides them with emotional security, and assists them with processing their feelings.
Having a place for everything, including your money, can make things possible that you thought were beyond your reach. To see what we mean, keep track of every dollar you spend over the next week or two. You may be astonished at how much of your income goes to things that provide little return. Instead, put those funds into a rainy-day fund, a college savings account, or a retirement program, and the savings may change your family’s lives for the better.
Acknowledging that organization, schedules, and routines are good is one thing. Knowing how to turn them into everyday realities is another. Here are some tips:
No one can do everything. So prioritizing the things that mean the most to you and your kids is crucial.
Accept that you will need to set aside some goals to which you’ve become attached, at least for now. For example, learning a foreign language is high on many people’s to-do list. But, unless it can help you earn more money or be a better tutor for your kids, it may need to wait.
A cup can be both half empty and half full. Staying positive can make an incalculable difference in your life and your kids’ lives. So try to focus on the things you can do, not those you can’t. You’ll find yourself a more effective parent for it.
Parenting is never easy. But there’s no more important job on earth. We hope the tips in this post help you to meet the challenges you face. All the best to you and your family as you go forward together.
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