This quote came up on my Facebook the other day, I have shared it on my own wall previously. It is about online friends and friendship. Some people laugh at these, my own husband has at times, but you can make great online friends. This week more than ever this has shown and I wanted to share my various experiences with you.
I will start with my first group of online friends, when I was pregnant with C, I was reading a pregnancy magazine one day and they had a forum where you could join and speak with other expectant Mums all due in the same month. Our children are now 14 and most of us are still friends and keep up to date with how we all are and how our children are doing.
My second group of online friends are again from a forum, this time one I joined when C was a baby, and again through a Mother and Baby magazine. We have now moved to a private Facebook group, some have left but most of us have stayed. We are a very mixed bunch living all over the place, with children of varying ages, and now some of us Grandparents as well. Some of us have never met, others have found real life best friends, some of us have met a few from the group. We have laughed together, cried together, supported each other, argued together and we come together in a crisis.
With a group of a load of women it is bound to get heated at times, and there are often fallings out, but we have all known each other so long, that we just agree to disagree. We have all gone through so much together from relationship break ups, to losing children, to serious illnesses, and losing a partner, plus a whole lot more. This year alone one of our friends sadly lost her life, to say it rocked us all was an understatement, I was lucky to have met her a few times. This week something unthinkable happened to one of the group. Our group is somewhere we can go and talk about anything, without judgement and we will get honest answers, even if they are not what we want to hear, you get told straight. If someone upsets one of us, you upset us all. But there have been so many memories and so many laughs over the years, and so many friends too.
Another group is the one I am in for parents of ME, this has been my rock over the past two years, and a place where I can talk openly and get the full understanding. Not just I could not cope with that, or they are just lazy, or hope they get better soon. I have also met with a few other Mums and it was lovely as we can talk about it openly, give advice.
And last but not least the Blogging community groups, you would think that we would all be competing against each other, and there would be a lot of underhand comments going on. This is far from the truth, in the nearly 3 years of writing a blog, only once have I come across someone like that, and that was only in the past month. Everyone in the blogging community has been so helpful, and we are genuinely pleased to hear of good news, and share opportunities when we can.
I know a lot of people out there say online friends are not real friends or you can not class them as friends. All I say is that they have not been lucky, as you can make good friends online, even if you never meet. I feel very blessed to call them my friends.
Do you have any online friends?