It is day 19 of the blogtober17 challenge, and todays topic is secrets, whilst thinking about this post it really got me thinking just how huge this topic is.
Secrets are one of those things that can really cause joy and happiness or break hearts.
We all have secrets, especially at this time of year when we are thinking of what to buy for christmas and knowing we have got an amazing present but can not say anything.
Sometimes we are put in a position where we do not know what to do, I have a very open relationship with my husband and we tell each other everything. A couple of years ago one of my boys rang me and put his then girlfriend on the phone, they were coming to us for the weekend, but she wanted to talk to me first, they thought she was pregnant, and did not know what to do, we chatted and she was going to get a test and do it while she was here, but they did not want me to say anything to my husband. This really did go against my usual thoughts, but I promised and for two days I kept that promise. They did the test and it was negative, and we then told my husband. Why my son was so scared to tell him I do not know, as he is a pussy cat at heart. But I was so relieved when it was out, and spent ages apologising to him. He was fine and said it must have been really playing on my mind.
I have also been in a position when one friend told me, she had slept with my best friends boyfriend and I could not say anything. I was seeing my best friend later that day, and I felt physically sick, but knew I had to tell her as she was besotted with him. She knew there was something wrong as soon as she saw me, and I told her, she was grateful and obviously hurt, but she deserved someone better than him.
There are also nice secrets, when my daughter in law went for her scan, the sex of the baby was to be kept a secret until her baby shower. Her Mum went with her and was told the gender and she rang me straight away. But keeping it a secret was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do when speaking to my daughter in law, so was very happy when we could finally talk about our new soon to be born granddaughter. The next secret I will have to keep is when she goes into labour as will not be able to say anything.
What are your views on secrets?
Have you ever had to keep one?