When you first have a baby, you spend pretty much all of your time together. Even if you go back to work fairly soon, all your time when you’re not at work is spent with your baby. As they grow up, spending less time together can be difficult. Both parents and children can end up experiencing separation anxiety. You might worry about leaving your baby with someone else, and your little one just doesn’t ever want mummy to be out of their sight. So how do you both get over it when you can’t stop worrying, or your toddler can’t even let you go to the toilet in peace? Some of these tips might help you both to get over separation anxiety.
Start with a Friend or Relative Babysitting
Some parents take a long time before anyone else looks after their baby. If you take all the maternity leave you’re allowed or perhaps become a stay at home parent, it could be a long time before you have to hand over your baby to anyone else. That can make it easy to avoid it, even if it means you don’t get much time to yourself. If you’re hesitant, starting with someone you love and trust is the best thing to do. Some people are lucky enough to have family nearby or good friends. Both you and your baby know them well, so it will help you both feel more comfortable.
Find a Babysitter You Trust
What can be more difficult is leaving your baby with someone who isn’t a friend or family member. You might do this if you work and they spend the day at daycare or nursery. However, it can feel different when you leave them with someone in your home, such as a babysitter. Finding someone you can trust can be hard because it can seem like no one is good enough for your child. You might have a neighbour who could help or someone a friend could recommend you. You can also hire a babysitter from Sitters.co.uk and other sites. Make sure you choose one where sitters are reference checked. You should be able to read about their professional experience.
Build Up the Time You Spend Apart
Suddenly spending a whole day or an overnight away from your baby can be tough. So if you don’t want to give yourself a shock, you should try building up how much time you spend apart. It might be only half an hour at first, then a couple of hours, and then perhaps an afternoon. It will help both of you to take things slowly.
Fun Distractions When You’re Apart
When you spend time away from your child, you don’t want either of you to be sitting around missing each other. Even though you might both feel sad or anxious, it’s important to have some fun distractions. So make sure something fun is set up for your little one, whether it’s singing nursery rhymes or a fun day out. And make sure you have plans to stay busy too, so you don’t spend all your time worrying.
Being apart from your baby can be hard, but you have to learn to do it at some point. Ease yourself into it and it will be more manageable.