The Reality Of Living With A Teen

We all know I have two teens living in my house. My Daughter C who is 13 and my stepson Shaun who is 18. So I thought I would do a little post about the reality of living with a teen in the house.

We all think that toddlers are the hardest age, let me tell you that is not the case. Teens are the hardest age so far and I am going to give you a few reasons why.

I am not going to talk about C, as due to her illness she is really easy. Before she became ill she had the strops and attitude though.

I am going to talk about the 18 year old, who now he is 18 thinks he is an adult. Meaning he thinks he can do what he wants and we can not tell him otherwise.

  • Attitude – 

    We all know about attitude, and a shrug or mumble and then getting stroppy when you ask them to repeat it. But you have to be all happy and jolly and are not allowed to say anything out of turn. Without the attitude showing its head.  All you need to do sometimes is say hello and you would have thought I had just given him a lecture.

  • Respect – 

    We are quite easy going parents, he works hard and long hours and on a weekend he does what he wants, or has lies in, but honestly you would think we would we the total opposite.

  • Food – 

    Never under estimate the amount of food an 18 year old eats.  I shop once a week and included in the shop is certain things I buy for others. He thinks all the food is for him. The only time I do go mad is when he eats things I have got in for C. As you may remember she also has problems with her jaw and we have to really think about what she can eat without causing her too much pain and discomfort. Obviously to him it is all for him, it is nothing to do with him being greedy or mean, he just does not think.  I have to hide things now just so he doesn’t eat it all.  And that in turn makes me feel mean. I also buy food in for his snacks and lunch at work, so he leaves that and uses up everything else.

  • Laziness – 

    It will not be a surprise to know that laziness would be in there somewhere. He does work hard and works long hours in a physical job. He also does overtime and stays on if needed, he never shys aways from work. But when he is at home he just makes a mess.  I refuse to go in his bedroom now, I think you would need a protective suit. I have lost a lot of sheets and duvet sets and towels. Where I give him clean ones to swap over, last week I left them outside his door.

  • After 2 days I got fed up so chucked them in his room.  I have now told him that until all dirty bedding and towels are put in the wash and his bed made properly, I am not doing one more piece of washing or ironing for him, not sure how long I will stick to my guns on this, but he has more.washing and ironing than the rest of us do together.
  • Caring – 

    It is not all doom and gloom, he is caring and loves doing things with us, and is such a great big brother to C.  Yes he winds her up and I often have to go in and tell him to leave her alone, but I reckon I could write a hit comedy show with the banter those two have, they are so funny together.

  • Mess – 

    He leaves stuff everywhere, dirty plates, cups, glasses are just left where he is and when we run out I send him to empty his bedroom.  But we own a dishwasher and if he has cooked something he washes everything up after him, does not clean the kitchen after himself though.

Teenagers are very hard work, drive you mad but you would not be without them.

Do you have any teens living in your house, or are you yet to experience this?

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  1. 25th January 2017 / 10:46 am

    I’m yet to experience this but it wasn’t that long ago that me and brother both lives together as teenagers so I can relate to this x

    • admin
      25th January 2017 / 12:52 pm

      I say to my husband one half of me wants to throttle him and let rip, but the other side of me wants to laugh, he is so frustrating but you just can not help but love him x

  2. Lynne Harper
    25th January 2017 / 12:22 pm

    Oh my i could have written this myself lol, i have 3 teens and 3 smalls so my house has hormones and temper tantrums galore. I have giggled at some of your points as they are so so true. Hard to believe I was like that years ago x

    • admin
      25th January 2017 / 12:50 pm

      I do sympathise with you for having the teens and the tantrums under one roof, I am sure we were not like that at their age x

  3. 25th January 2017 / 12:43 pm

    My SS is 12 and is already acting like quite the teen. It’s a bit frightening to think of what’s to come, lol! x

    • admin
      25th January 2017 / 12:49 pm

      C is 13 and the only upside to her illness is we have not got the horrible teens, but Shaun more than makes up for it x

  4. Charli Bruce
    25th January 2017 / 1:15 pm

    My daughter isn’t even a teenager yet (nearly there) and she acts like this! I have two younger sisters who are 19 & 20 and they still act like this… I honestly think all teens do!

    • admin
      25th January 2017 / 4:43 pm

      It is a teen thing, he will grow out of it one day x

  5. Jemma
    25th January 2017 / 1:24 pm

    I have this all to come! Although my 2 year old does act like a stroppy teenager sometimes.

    • admin
      25th January 2017 / 4:42 pm

      I remember the terrible 2’s, you do at least have some control over them at that age, it gets harder as they get bigger, but they still know they need to listen

  6. Dannii
    25th January 2017 / 3:28 pm

    I have a 10 week old baby and I have alllll this to look forward to. I am not looking forward to the attitude.

    • admin
      25th January 2017 / 4:40 pm

      Aww each stage has its’s challenges but you get through it and you also have some laughs x

  7. 25th January 2017 / 3:44 pm

    This sounds like a real challenge. When my brother was in his teen year, I moved out house. I couldn’t stand the pressure any more. Not he has grown out of it yet though ;))

    • admin
      25th January 2017 / 4:39 pm

      It is challenging, but as we say he is 18, drives me mad but he is still young x

  8. 25th January 2017 / 5:36 pm

    This really does sound like quite a challenge and in many ways would drive me mad such as not cleaning up after himself and losing all the bedding and towels to his room, but I’m sure he is also a loving and caring brother to C and your life would not be the same without him.

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 12:09 pm

      This is it, he drives me mad but he is such a great brother to C and their bond is so strong, and I would not have life without him and he knows how to get round me x

  9. 25th January 2017 / 6:32 pm

    I’m in my twenties but still recognise lots of the teen traits in myself…. I am a bit messy at times! xxx

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 12:07 pm

      I can be messy, especially when I go into full meltdown stubborn mode, and refuse to tidy up but then I get annoyed and bag everything up with the threat of the bin x

  10. 25th January 2017 / 6:42 pm

    I’m not a parent yet so this was something that was an eye opener for me. Though I have brothers that are teenagers, I don’t really know what it is like living with them as I do not live with my parents anymore. Great insight and I guess it’s all part of life as we were once teens, too 🙂

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 12:07 pm

      Teen years are hard, but it is all part of the growing up process x

  11. 25th January 2017 / 7:17 pm

    I was a teen not so long ago and it was a difficult time I was an arsehole but hey you live and learn!

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 12:06 pm

      I know, my husband’s favourite saying these days is ‘he is 18, I remember what it was like’ x

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 12:05 pm

      Oh the terrible twos I loved those years x

  12. hannah
    25th January 2017 / 9:38 pm

    I remember when i was a teen, i was a complete nightmare, had a really bad attitude problem

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 12:03 pm

      I did apparently as well, but refuse to believe it x

  13. 25th January 2017 / 11:15 pm

    I don’t have that bliss, but think you get to certain age where being past the age of 18is hard to live with parents. Desperate for independence, do own thing, and follow own rules. The strops are not on but guess some must be funny to watch as look nutty. I do pity my parents for teen years. I also feel that the longer you live with parents, the more you continue to feel like a teenager! haha x

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 12:02 pm

      He has his independence as we are quite laid back really, only a few rules but they are just normal ones to do with food and washing etc. It is quite funny at times and we do have a lot of laughs as well x

  14. 26th January 2017 / 6:41 am

    My niece is only a dot at the moment, but I’m sort of waiting for this to happen when she is older! Teenage years are so challenging on both sides!

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 11:59 am

      Teenage years are challening and rewarding x

  15. 26th January 2017 / 9:17 am

    I’ve never lived with teens other than when I was one and my brother was there too but to be honest my brother at 26 still lives like a teen, his bedroom is absolutely appalling. My parents refuse to go in there now x

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 11:59 am

      I refuse to go in my sons, and if I open the door I have to take and deep breath and hold it until I have shut the door again x

  16. 26th January 2017 / 10:07 am

    I have all this to look forward to! My eldest is 5 and some days I wonder if she’s a teenager. Think I need to be prepared for her attitude getting worse. 🙂

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 11:58 am

      They are in training at that age for when they do become teens x

  17. 26th January 2017 / 7:14 pm

    I am not looking forward to my daughter becoming a teen. I want her to sty young forever but it isn’t going to happen. I will have to cherish the moments now

    • admin
      26th January 2017 / 8:13 pm

      Unfortunately, it doesn’t happen as much as we try to stop it, they do keep growing x

  18. 27th January 2017 / 7:53 pm

    Oh I can relate to every single part of this post. It made me chuckle, but when I was living through it, it made me want to pull my hair out lol

    • admin
      27th January 2017 / 8:41 pm

      It is so easy to laugh if you have been through it with that understanding knowledge x

  19. 31st January 2017 / 10:53 am

    My girls are 6 and 8 going on 13 and I am really dreading when they do make it to their teens I do struggle already especially with my youngest daughter as she can be more of a handful. Good luck x

    • admin
      31st January 2017 / 7:54 pm

      They do start the attitude at that age, but although it is a nightmare you learn to get on and live with it

  20. 1st February 2017 / 10:47 am

    So he is 18, has a job and thinks he is an adult. Are you treating him like one? Would any other adult be allowed to behave like this in your home?

    • admin
      1st February 2017 / 11:34 am

      Yes he is 18, I understand he works long hours but I do need a bit of respect, I am ready to bring out his Dad now, once he starts he will lecture on and he hates upsetting his dad x

  21. 2nd February 2017 / 12:57 am

    Ohh that must be tough! I’m 25 and I was not a good teen myself I feel bad for my mum! L x

    • admin
      2nd February 2017 / 10:20 am

      It is hard, just a good job I did not write this post today or it would be a lot worse x

  22. 5th February 2017 / 10:27 pm

    This post reminds me so much of my mom! She’s always telling me about how much food my 16 year old brother eats.

    • admin
      5th February 2017 / 10:50 pm

      I feel for your Mum, honestly I do not understand how he can eat so much x

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