What kind of Mum are you?

What kind of Mum are you? I was browsing facebook with my morning coffee and came across one of those silly apps.  I do like to have a go just to see what they say.  The one I came across this morning was, What kind of a Mum are you?

This is something that I have been thinking about a lot lately, not questioning myself, but more so other Mums.  I have not been judging any Mums.  It is through posts I have read or statuses on Facebook, where Mums have felt like they are letting their children down, because of a comment someone has made, whether it be a family member, friend, or someone they do not even know.

We all know that being a Mum (or Dad), is hard, we suddenly have this tiny newborn baby and are then left to look after it.  No one knows what they are doing, we all read the articles in magazines, read books, search the internet and talk to friends and family.  But every child is different and everyone parents differently, so are these really a help?

Just in this past week, I have read posts on someone feeling like they are failing their child because they do not breastfeed (no I am not going to start that debate up again), does it really matter how the baby is fed, we all know that breast is best, but there are so many reasons that a baby is bottle fed, surely a baby being fed is the most important, and instead of making a Mum feel bad about it, just look at a great job she is doing in feeding her baby.

Another post was a Mum really upset as someone had told her she doesn’t give her children enough time, and felt she had to explain what she does and how much time she gives them, (by the way she sounded like a fantastic Mum and had no reason to feel that way).

I have also questioned myself over the years, just because ‘society’ thinks you should do this, or someone has said something.

In this test I got Protective Mum, and yes I am, more so now than ever, and I will fight every single minute of the day to make sure my Daughter is happy.

So, to all you parents out there, who feel they are being judged, or that they are failing their child/ren.  Take a deep breath and look at them,

  • Are they fed
  • Are they clothed
  • Are they happy
  • Who is it they want when they are upset
  • Do you worry when they are unhappy
  • Do you sit up with them when they are ill
  • Do you look at them and think you are just amazing

You are all doing an amazing job, just ignore any negative comments and carry on as you are.



  1. Emma
    13th April 2016 / 11:18 am

    Fab post, I was inspired to write a post about something recently because of something a friend posted and I think we as a society need to support each other more and not make each other feel rubbish! On any given day that quiz would show different results for me due to mood etc but yep I agree with your result but then what mum isn’t protective?

    Em xXx

    • admin
      13th April 2016 / 11:48 am

      Thank you, it just seems lately so many great Mums are being made to feel that they are not good Mums, because of a comment someone has made, or an article they have read. I wanted to try to point out everyone is different I parent differently to how others parent, it is a natural thing. But really does it matter how you do it as long as your children are happy and well looked after. I have always been a protective parent, my youngest stepson is always telling me to stop worrying or I worry too much, but some of the things he does I can not help but worry.

  2. 13th April 2016 / 12:26 pm

    The last two sentences pretty much sum up parenthood for me. Nobody needs negativity in their life, and the chances are that those who ARE bad parents probably don’t ever question themselves as to whether they are or not!

    • admin
      13th April 2016 / 2:35 pm

      Exactly, those of us who do worry and stress about it, are the ones who are great parents, if you didn’t care then you wouldn’t be worrying so much x

  3. 13th April 2016 / 2:03 pm

    Thanks for sharing your quiz results. I too am a protective, I’d even go as far as to say a fierce, mother. Out little ones are small for such a short time and they need us to protect their happiness and their growth. It’s a time where it can easily be stolen, and we’d never get it back, before we know it they’re teenagers and showing us how to be parents!

    • admin
      13th April 2016 / 2:34 pm

      I have always been protective, but even more so at the moment. They are little for such a short time they need someone to protect them.

  4. 13th April 2016 / 3:00 pm

    I think if (and when) I ever have children I’d probably be a protective mum as well. x

    • admin
      13th April 2016 / 7:13 pm

      It comes with the territory you do become protective x

  5. 13th April 2016 / 5:46 pm

    Great post. There’s been so many parenting battles lately, like the breast feeding saga for example, so it’s nice to see someone sticking up for all parents and promoting positivity amongst them. Enjoy all the amazing moments you have with your kids, love them with everything you have, and don’t worry what anyone else thinks. If you and your kids are happy and healthy, what more is there

    • admin
      13th April 2016 / 7:12 pm

      The breastfeeding saga has been going on for years, but it just seems a lot of Mums lately have felt they are not good Mums, I have felt that myself at times. So thought I would tell it as it is and that we are all great Mums (and Dads) x

  6. 13th April 2016 / 9:03 pm

    Well said, why should we judge the techniques of others especially if each child is different? It makes no sense!

    • admin
      13th April 2016 / 9:54 pm

      Exactly, all children are different and everyone parents differently, we should support not make others feel bad x

  7. 13th April 2016 / 10:41 pm

    This is a great message. I was so worried about doing something wrong when my kids were little.

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 8:54 am

      We all worry, but it is natural to make mistakes or not do it as others think you should x

  8. 14th April 2016 / 6:45 am

    A very thought provoking post. I do the best job I can do. I am not perfect, there is always room for improvement, but my children know they are loved, they are fed, clean, safe and happy. That’s all that matters.

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 8:52 am

      That is all we can do, our best, no one can say they are the perfect parent x

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 8:52 am

      Thank you x

  9. The London Mum
    14th April 2016 / 7:40 am

    I do tend to ignore what others say, simply because I know my son and I know he’s happy. I may not have done things perfectly and there are many situations I feel ashamed about (losing my patience at times) but he’s a happy, charming little boy. And that’s all the assurance I need 🙂
    I also think all children are different, they’re wired differently so what works for one child may not work for another.

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 8:51 am

      Totally agree, we all have situations that we wished we had dealt with better, as you say all children are different and as long as your child is happy that is all that matters x

  10. Natasha Mairs
    14th April 2016 / 9:53 am

    exactly!! We should all ignore negative comments, they are not going to help in the way we parent. You have to remember that every child is different so they have to be parented different too

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 7:12 pm

      Exactly, this is what I was trying to say x

  11. 14th April 2016 / 10:07 am

    Every parent, and every child is different. We just all have to do the best we can in the situation we are in.

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 7:12 pm

      This is what I was trying to say x

  12. Rebecca Smith
    14th April 2016 / 10:47 am

    This is such an important post and so thought provoking. We all have times when we think ‘Oh, I could have dealt with that much better than I did’ but as long as the child is fed, watered, has a roof over their head and are happy then you’re doing a great job

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 2:50 pm

      Exactly, I know I have had times when I could have done things better, it is human nature, we are learning as well x

  13. Charli Bruce
    14th April 2016 / 12:59 pm

    To be honest I never take any notice of anyone’s opinion when it comes to how I parent my daughter, she’s my kid and everyone always has an opinion about something. I had to grow a thick skin like this because I had her when I was very young and everyone wanted to throw their two cents in about it. If anything I would say I am a strong willed. assertive and protective mum who has raised a brilliantly smart, healthy and very happy young lady who tells me I am the best person every single day. All children are different and all parenting styles are different, who are we to judge for all I know I could have another child and parent them completely different just simply because they could take me down a different path due to their nature. As long as the children are happy and safe that’s all that should ever matter xx

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 2:49 pm

      Totally agree, I just wanted to show everyone out there, that they are great parents and we are all different and parent differently and children are all different.

  14. nicol
    14th April 2016 / 2:06 pm

    i find these quizzes silly as it doesn’t summarise the type of mother you are. as long as they’re doing everything to look after and keeping the child happy, thats all that matters

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 2:46 pm

      I agree, although I am overly protective at the moment so was true this time. But I used this as a started for my topic, as a lot of Mums lately are being made to feel bad over their parenting

  15. 14th April 2016 / 4:21 pm

    I agree there are too many negative people about, best to ignore them and get on with more important things.

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 7:09 pm

      Totally agree x

  16. 14th April 2016 / 4:29 pm

    Great post. 🙂 It really sums it up. Quizzes like that are just stereotyping. Most mothers judge situations to the best of their ability and as long as the basic needs like love and care you’re covered. 😉 My daughter is 19 now and I was 22 when I had her so everything was a learning process, but with good help, it went very well. 🙂 She is such a lovely girl now. All strong and doesn’t take shit from anyone. 🙂


    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 7:09 pm

      Thank you, I know these are just silly quizes, I only did it for a laugh to see what it said, but very apt for me I am overly protective at the moment. Sounds like you have a great Daughter 🙂 . It just seems lately there have been a lot of Mums thinking they do a bad job, or take to heart negative comments that someone has said to them. I just wanted to point out that they are great parents and carry on as they are x

  17. 14th April 2016 / 5:57 pm

    From being out and about and doing toddler groups and standing in the school playground, all parents are different but all parents worry about other people’s thoughts… Even if they don’t admit it. So long as the kids are happy, id say that was a good start. great post.

    • admin
      14th April 2016 / 7:06 pm

      Thank you, we all worry, but agree as long as the kids are happy that is a great start x

  18. 15th April 2016 / 2:19 pm

    The most important thing any parent can do is just make sure their child is happy and well looked after and you are doing a fab job xxx

    • admin
      15th April 2016 / 8:53 pm

      Thank you, and that is all any parent wants x

  19. 16th April 2016 / 11:46 am

    Well said. As long as your children are happy. Healthy and you show them love there’s nothing to worry about!

    • admin
      16th April 2016 / 1:44 pm

      Exactly, it is such a shame just lately reading so many posts about Mums who feel they are not doing a good job and they really are x

  20. 16th April 2016 / 12:24 pm

    I think whatever kind of parent you are you will sometimes question yourself and there’ll be people who question your ways; but so long as your children are happy it’s all good.

    • admin
      16th April 2016 / 1:43 pm

      Every parent questions themselves, and at some stage someone will say something to us that catches a nerve. But as you say as long as the children are happy that is all that matters x

  21. 16th April 2016 / 2:37 pm

    This is exactly my way of thinking! Great post 🙂

    • admin
      16th April 2016 / 2:41 pm

      Thank you x

  22. 16th April 2016 / 9:03 pm

    I don’t think you ever think you’re doing a good enough job, it’s probably the ones who think they are that should worry!

    • admin
      16th April 2016 / 9:56 pm

      Exactly, have always said if you worry and care then you are doing a great job, if you dont’ care you are not doing a good job x

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