What kind of Mum are you? I was browsing facebook with my morning coffee and came across one of those silly apps. I do like to have a go just to see what they say. The one I came across this morning was, What kind of a Mum are you?
This is something that I have been thinking about a lot lately, not questioning myself, but more so other Mums. I have not been judging any Mums. It is through posts I have read or statuses on Facebook, where Mums have felt like they are letting their children down, because of a comment someone has made, whether it be a family member, friend, or someone they do not even know.
We all know that being a Mum (or Dad), is hard, we suddenly have this tiny newborn baby and are then left to look after it. No one knows what they are doing, we all read the articles in magazines, read books, search the internet and talk to friends and family. But every child is different and everyone parents differently, so are these really a help?
Just in this past week, I have read posts on someone feeling like they are failing their child because they do not breastfeed (no I am not going to start that debate up again), does it really matter how the baby is fed, we all know that breast is best, but there are so many reasons that a baby is bottle fed, surely a baby being fed is the most important, and instead of making a Mum feel bad about it, just look at a great job she is doing in feeding her baby.
Another post was a Mum really upset as someone had told her she doesn’t give her children enough time, and felt she had to explain what she does and how much time she gives them, (by the way she sounded like a fantastic Mum and had no reason to feel that way).
I have also questioned myself over the years, just because ‘society’ thinks you should do this, or someone has said something.
In this test I got Protective Mum, and yes I am, more so now than ever, and I will fight every single minute of the day to make sure my Daughter is happy.
So, to all you parents out there, who feel they are being judged, or that they are failing their child/ren. Take a deep breath and look at them,
- Are they fed
- Are they clothed
- Are they happy
- Who is it they want when they are upset
- Do you worry when they are unhappy
- Do you sit up with them when they are ill
- Do you look at them and think you are just amazing
You are all doing an amazing job, just ignore any negative comments and carry on as you are.