When your child is ill

As parents we have all been there, with a child who is unwell.  We have sat up at nights with them when they can not sleep. And we have cleared away the sick, changed beds at times we did not know existed during the night, even bathed them.

We have nursed coughs and colds, sickness bugs, viruses, nursed their temperatures, soothed them.

When a cuddle is not enough

But when your child has been ill for nearly a month. Has had tests that have thankfully all come back ok, but is still not well what do you do?

She has hardly been in school as she is just not fit enough for it. She is tired, lethargic, has pains in her head, school are being supportive and working with me. And for that I am so grateful as it does make my life a bit easier.  They have seen for themselves how ill she is.

The worrying

I am worried sick, I mentioned before that they thought it could be glandular fever. She had further tests this week and it came back negative.  In a way I feel a bit sad that it is not glandular fever. Because at least then we would know what we were dealing with and she would get better slowly.

The not knowing

At the moment we have no idea. All I get told is wait 2 weeks and bring her back. I am not waiting 2 weeks I am taking her back on Monday, someone somewhere must be able to give me an answer.

I jokingly told her it is the weekend now she can be ok as no school, it made no difference to how she is feeling.  We have offered to take her to her favourite place to eat, she just said she will have a drink.  My parents got tickets to take her to see Shrek the Musical tomorrow, she has been looking forward to this and it is part of her christmas present, she cried as she feels so ill, I have talked her into going saying she will be sitting down and it might perk her up a little bit, and will be nice to get out etc, I am going as well now, and my Dad is not going, he is going to drop us outside the theatre and pick us up after.

She is hungry, but then hasn’t the energy to eat, I have made soups, got her all her favourite things she likes, it is breaking my heart.

I just don’t know what to do anymore, she is hardly sick apart from the odd cough or cold, and the odd migraine that is it, so this is totally new to all of us.

I am not so bothered about her attendance, but I am worried about her falling behind in school.

If anyone has had anything similar, please let me know, or have any suggestions.



  1. Eve Redmond
    3rd February 2016 / 11:03 pm

    Oh gosh that sounds awful for you. Has she got chronic fatigue syndrome?

    • admin
      4th February 2016 / 9:59 am

      Apparently not as I asked at the Dr on Monday and was told that takes years to come out. She is signed off school this week and we have a hospital appointment next week, so hopefully have a few more answers

  2. Idaintyit
    5th February 2016 / 2:34 pm

    Aww that sounds awful, it must be so stressful not knowing what it is because then at east you can treat it. I really hope she gets better soon or that you find an answer!

    • admin
      5th February 2016 / 4:28 pm

      Thank you, that is what is the worst thing as we just don’t know what is wrong with her, hopefully she will start to see an improvement soon x

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