I read an interesting article the other day about marriage, and what it means to people now and is it a thing of the past. Do we need to get married now.
I first married when I was 24 I had the huge white wedding, the bridesmaids, the page boy and ushers the huge dress, the big reception, the whole works. We settled into married life but it was not a happy marriage and we were married for 7 years. I was mentally abused I went from someone who knew my own mind to someone who was totally different, one day I had enough and we split up and a very messy divorce followed.
I met my now husband and we had both had messy past relationships and were very happy, one day we decided to get married, we had a small wedding totally different and it was perfect, and 16 years on and 13 years married, he has brought me back to the person I used to be, he has given me the most precious gift anyone can give, our beautiful daughter and 2 lovely stepsons.
I know we would still have the same relationship if we were not married, but to me it is important I feel proud to say I am his wife, it does complete me.
I have friends who are not married and been together a long time and have children and they are just as happy and have no intentions of getting married.
I also have friends who have had to get married for various reasons, they are happy and would have been just as happy if they had stayed unmarried, but legal reasons forced their hand really.
The response this article got what quite surprising with how everyone felt, some people thought if you were in a committed long term relationship, you should be married. Others felt that why should they be pressured by society into marriage.
To me I could not care less if someone was married or not, it is a personal choice.
What do you think about marriage
Do you think it should still be valued or do you think it is up to the individuals?
Does it change how you feel about someone who is not married when they have a family?
I am intrigued really to see how others feel as I was quite shocked