Something a Little Less Scary

I know for all of you out there with younger children, enjoying the baby stage where they stay in one place and coo and smile at you, or the toddler stage where they are turning into little people, or the school days where it is all an adventure.  You read my posts and are filled with dread at the upcoming pre-teen years, when your little angel turns into a tween.

I promise it is not all bad, in fact a lot of the time it is great.

I posted yesterday and pointed out a few little battles we have, fairly regularly, and I was ready for another battle yesterday evening.  So thought I would share what happened in our house yesterday.

We decided to put a desk in her room, she had no idea and while she was at school we brought in the desk from the studio.  We got it upstairs and put in position and I then piled a mountain of clothes etc onto her bed, ready for a huge meltdown and how mean I am conversation when she got in from school.

She walked in, was in an ok mood, she spoke instead of shrugged her shoulders or muttered some grunt you have to try to decipher, and went upstairs.  We sat and waited and heard nothing, but she appeared a few minutes later (for food and a drink), and had a smile on her face saying she did not know she was getting a desk.  I told her I wanted her room tidied and homework finished, expecting all sorts but she just said ok.

She went back upstairs and put everything away and it is tidier, there are still areas I had to bite my tongue over though.  She set her laptop up on her desk and she did her homework, and she actually sat there for hours doing her homework properly and really enjoying it, chatting to her friends and even helping them.

We also had our little daily chat, which I love, she is so funny and enthusiastic at times and I just love our one on one time we have, even if it is a quick 5-10 minutes.

So life with a tween is fun, and not all bad, yes she drives me mad at times but I would not change her one bit.




  1. 6th January 2016 / 9:33 am

    I can more than imagine the hormones raging and everything just makes you angry at her age, bless x

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 10:35 am

      Oh I know, I really wouldn’t want to be that age again. She is a good girl really and I would rather she let of steam at home x

  2. Natasha Mairs
    6th January 2016 / 10:55 am

    My eldest turns 11 in March and starts high school this September. I just can’t believe how time flies. Not looking forward to his teens as he has started with an attitude already

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 10:57 am

      You are in the same position as I was last year. The attitude does get worse once in secondary school as they suddenly feel so grown up, I just politely remind her at times who she is talking too

  3. Ickle Pickle
    6th January 2016 / 1:28 pm

    Bless her – don’t forget she will be having massive hormonal peaks and troughs which helps explain the moods – when other times she will be so sweet. My girls are 16 and 19 so I know! Plus a teen boy of 13 oh and a tot of 3!! Kaz x

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 3:04 pm

      Oh I know, this is why I do let her get away with a lot and when she has calmed down we talk. I do not envy your household x

  4. 6th January 2016 / 5:31 pm

    Sounds like the desk was well received! I am not looking foward to the hormonal rages (though I need to deal with the toddler tantrums first!) but things like this highlight might just be worth it hehe

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 6:49 pm

      I am not sure if the toddler tantrums or the pre-teen outburst which is worse. There are loads of highlights though x

  5. Lorraine
    6th January 2016 / 6:00 pm

    I don’t have any children but when I choose to have, I dread the teen years. I was a nightmare so can only imagine what they would be. It’s nice to hear that she appreciated that desk 🙂 Loved mine, a place to do my homework, read and doodle.

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 6:47 pm

      I always dreaded the teen years, when she was a newborn I remember sitting with her on my lap dreading her growing up. Now she is growing up it is just as lovely and as much rewarding. She loves her desk she draws a lot so will be much easier for her now too, without taking up my dining table

  6. 6th January 2016 / 6:30 pm

    That’s the thing, it was not so long ago that I was teen and I understand how it feels to be one. Restrictions and people telling you what to do can be frustrating, we are fiercely independent but at the same time still need someone to support us financially.

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 6:45 pm

      It was a long time ago that I was that young, but I do remember it. She is good just has her blips and home is where she can just let rip in the knowledge that she can and wont be judged

  7. Whatlauraloves
    6th January 2016 / 8:28 pm

    Aw bless her. At least the desk worked and she was able to get some homework done xxx

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 8:47 pm

      It did, she was very happy 🙂

  8. 6th January 2016 / 9:31 pm

    Glad the desk made her happy 🙂 I remember being that age very well and being very much the same x

    • admin
      6th January 2016 / 9:35 pm

      I know it is just her age, which is why I give her slack and just let her get it out of her system, best way to deal with her is leave her for a bit and she is then fine, but I do stop if she gets a bit too lippy. I wouldn’t be that age again

  9. Catstello
    7th January 2016 / 8:47 am

    Gorgeous photo above! I’m 23, but sometimes still act like a hormonal teenager. It’s so tough for girls ha!

    • admin
      7th January 2016 / 9:06 am

      Thank you, it is hard with all these hormones

  10. 7th January 2016 / 10:58 am

    My daughter is already showing signs of becoming a tween and she is only 4. Oh dear! x

    • admin
      7th January 2016 / 11:02 am

      Oh dear good luck 🙂

  11. 7th January 2016 / 11:00 am

    Guess we were all pre teens once upon a time.

    • admin
      7th January 2016 / 11:02 am

      We were as my Mum keeps reminding me

  12. 7th January 2016 / 1:59 pm

    Gotta love a tween. I find them hilarious. But I don’t have my own just yet, so in time I’ll be pulling my own hair out lol x

    • admin
      7th January 2016 / 3:22 pm

      They are funny and at times we have to hide that we are laughing as it will make things worse.

  13. Nayna Kanabar
    7th January 2016 / 7:42 pm

    Teenagers , we have all been there and done it . It’s good to see that your teen was so happy with her personal space.

    • admin
      7th January 2016 / 7:48 pm

      She was happy, we have our moments with her but she is good x

  14. 7th January 2016 / 7:54 pm

    I admit I was such a moody teenager and really regret it looking back. I’m glad she’s really happy 🙂

    • admin
      7th January 2016 / 9:45 pm

      I was according to my Mum, but I honestly remember being the perfect child :). I have also realised that she is very moody if hungry and not fed

  15. Deanna
    9th January 2016 / 5:06 pm

    This made me smile quite a lot! You really surprised her and it seemed to go down so well. I remember being that age, and now in my early twenties am mortified at how I used to behave sometimes, you just can’t help it! This was so sweet though, and that special one on one time is so precious.

    • admin
      9th January 2016 / 10:03 pm

      She is a good girl most of the time, and I know it is just her age and do let her off because of that, although I do have to remind her that I am her Mum at times. She was really happy with it, unfortunately though she hasn’t been well so not used it since as just been in bed, but know she will use it more when better x

  16. 9th January 2016 / 9:28 pm

    Teens can be a handful at times but they are teens so we shouldn’t expect anything less from them 🙂

    • admin
      9th January 2016 / 9:53 pm

      This is true, although at the moment I would love her to be like that she is unwell been over a week now off and on, she is hardly eating or talking and so quiet and I don’t like it x

  17. 11th January 2016 / 10:09 am

    I dread the teen years. Luckily I have a little boy however I think they can be just as bad when they hit their teens. It looks like her gift was gratefully received.

    • admin
      11th January 2016 / 10:48 am

      Boys are totally different to girls (I have two older stepsons), it is a horrible time for them, I get through it by saying home is her safe place where she can let rip, although it drives me mad at the same time. She loved her desk x

  18. tots2travel
    14th January 2016 / 8:06 am

    Her own desk must have felt so grown up.

    • admin
      14th January 2016 / 8:13 am

      I think it did 🙂

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