Mum 1- Daughter 0

Mum 1- Daughter 0

Some of you may have seen my post on my Facebook page yesterday with Mum v’s Daughter. So thought I had better explain.

As we did not have a roast dinner on Sunday, I cooked one yesterday, it was roast chicken which she loves anyway.  I cook dinner and serve it up, very pleased with myself as my roast potatoes were amazing.  Called her down for her dinner and this is how the conversation went.

Me – Are you coming down dinner is ready, and how many potatoes do you want?

C- Why? What are we having?

Me – Roast Chicken – please note I said Chicken and not squirrel or something equally horrible.

C- I don’t want roast dinner.

Me – Well there is nothing else, you like roast chicken. Come down now please

C- I don’t feel like a roast

I go and dish up and call her again, and then once more and then told her it was on the side and to come down quickly before it gets too cold.

So me and my husband had ours and it was very nice, C hadn’t appeared.

This is where the battle started.

Me- Can you come and eat your dinner now, there is nothing else

C- Fine I won’t have anything then

Me – Ok it is on the side if you change your mind, if not you can have it for dinner tomorrow

C – I don’t want it tomorrow either

An hour or so later she appears

Me – Are you hungry?

C – Yes

Me – Ok  I will go and warm up your dinner

C – I don’t feel like roast, I feel sick

Me – Do you want some toast then and have your dinner tomorrow

C – No

Me – You probably feel sick because you are hungry

She goes stomping upstairs again, then comes back down ok I will have my dinner.

I was feeling so mean, because on one hand there was nothing wrong with her dinner, it is a dinner she likes but on the other hand I did not want her to go to bed hungry.

I am so glad she gave in and had her dinner in the end.

She was quite happy after that, until this morning when she couldn’t find something (again) which was all my fault and then she got the right strop and would not talk to me.

I am really dreading the teenage years


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Comments (47)

  • Tots2travel 3 years ago Reply

    You sound very patient. Hope i can keep it together like that.

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I am not that patient, I knew she would eat it in the end, but was more worried she was going to call my bluff. If we have something I know she does not like then I do always do something else for her, so it wasn’t that she didn’t like it

  • Sarah Bailey 3 years ago Reply

    Oh dear – I remember pulling this one a lot when I was younger.. Mind you I have the tendency to go off things if I eat it to much so sometimes I really couldn’t face it. x

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I would never have got away with it, it was a case of there is your dinner it is that or nothing, although I would have something different if it was something I didn’t like.

  • Agata 3 years ago Reply

    Oh well, kids will be kids, right? To be honest we most likely wouldn’t want it any other way anyway 🙂

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I am pretty laid back with dinners, if it is something she doesn’t like she has something different, and sometimes she just wants something picky for dinner rather than a proper meal, and that is fine, this was just her being awkward

  • Rachael 3 years ago Reply

    Suddenly feeling very guilty for all the times I pulled this with my mum. Mind you, kids do it don’t they, just part of the game.

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    It is all part of growing up and making a stand I suppose x

  • Anna 3 years ago Reply

    You sounds like you really caring about her! My mum would be like, then go to bed hungry. She wouldnt try to convince me haha, she loves to bits but she wouldnt waste her time. She was always saying ts my choice if I make bad decision I will be paying for it- in this case going hungry /sickish to bed 😉

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I know it would be her fault if she went to bed hungry, but I wouldn’t have been able to let her do it, I am too much of a softy

  • Ana De- Jesus 3 years ago Reply

    Oh god good luck with the teenage years its a long but fruitful time ahead. I should know it was not so long ago that I was one.

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    Thank you, it was a very long time ago I was a teenager and I am not really looking forward to it, or can hope it doesn,’t get any worse

  • Laura Hartley 3 years ago Reply

    I was a terrible teenager and in retrospect I feel rather bad about.. Best of luck with it all, I’m sure she won’t turn into a teenage terror!

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I was not too bad as a teenager but I did have my moments, think it is going to be a bit of a bumpy ride x

  • whatlauraloves 3 years ago Reply

    Its hard being a kid but sounds like its even harder being a parent! xxx

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I would not want to go back to her age it is a hard time, and I do understand that and do try my hardest to make it easy for her, but I just need her to give a bit too, which wont happen

  • Charlotte 3 years ago Reply

    Kids! Next time she doesn’t want her dinner give me a shout. It sounds lovely! x

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    She would happily of let you have it, She had no valid reason for not wanting it so I did stick with it

  • Stella 3 years ago Reply

    Oh my, I am dreading the teenage years with my kids. I remember being very difficult with my mum.

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    There is never a dull moment, and the daily battles that go along with it x

  • Daniella 3 years ago Reply

    I have a 15 year old daughter. I’ve had this battle many times and it’s only just started to get easier. I make 2 batches of slow cooker soup a week and that’s the alternative if my main meal on an evening is shunned. I make food that is nutritious and using the contents of my weekly veg box, if my daughter turns her nose up because she isn’t willing to try something new there is soup on offer. Mean? maybe but that’s how it works in our home.

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I am making soup and homemade bread tonight so know she will eat that, I don’t think it is mean at all x

  • Natasha Mairs 3 years ago Reply

    OMG this just sound like my 10 year old son!! I too am dreading his teenage years

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I have a feeling that the teenage years are going to be quite bumpy, but she also knows I do not give in x

  • Ickle Pickle 3 years ago Reply

    Oh the start of a slippery slope!! Good Luck, this is just the beginning! As a mum of three teens, I know. Kaz x

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    Thank you, you have just made my day lol x

  • Catstello 3 years ago Reply

    I bet she will be embarrassed when she grows up and reads this haha

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    Probably, but she is pretty good takes everything in her stride really and she knows I put stuff on here x

  • The London Mum 3 years ago Reply

    You did the right thing completely. These little ones are sent to test us, and you handled it amazingly well 😉 x

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    Thank you, I am not going to let her start with that one as although I do not mind her eating junk food, she needs to eat proper nutrious meals as well x

  • Renna 3 years ago Reply

    Hahahaha. Sorry, nut this dodgy make me laugh. I did this so often, that my mum gave up in the end, and just let me cook my own dinner. I got very good at pasta and tomato sauce!! Lol!!

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    I am not ready for her to start doing that yet, or it will be all rubbish dinners she has

  • Renna 3 years ago Reply

    Oh dear, Renna 0 Predicted Text 1!!

    *sorry But this Did make me laugh *

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    Haha I am used to predicted text and realising what was written x

  • Mandi 3 years ago Reply

    Well Done for staying so calm, this is like a scene from out house most evenings, there is always one of the children that doesn’t like the meal I have cooked!

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    The boys were a lot easier, they would eat what was put in front of them, so no idea why my daughter is like it. It does make me feel like going on strike and saying it is toast for dinner

  • Rachel 3 years ago Reply

    I think you did the right thing totally. My nephew is the same right now, he won’t eat anything other than chicken soup, so the rule is, he can have his chicken soup, after eating whatever has been cooked for him… xx

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    Why are kids like this these days, it drives me mad x

  • oh dear, I am dreading when my daughter can talk back to me! I can just about deal with her now and she is one! They do like to test us don’t they. Sounds like you were super patient!

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    One year olds are a walk in the park, but you do find the more they start the better you are at handling the situation, and yes they do test you but worth it

  • Tori Gabriel 3 years ago Reply

    Wow, well done for being so patient! I’m not sure if I could have kept my cool after cooking it and then her saying she didn’t want it. Glad she ate it in the end though.

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    It was hard, but I wasn’t giving in, she is a nightmare at times, I was just very matter of fact she either eats it today or I put it in the fridge and she has it tomorrow

  • Kim Carberry 3 years ago Reply

    Ahh! This sounds all too familiar. I have the same battle with my girls at least once a week….
    So glad she ate it eventually….Good luck with the teenage years x

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    It is a nightmare isn’t it, and it was a really lovely dinner as well. I am dreading the teenage years x

  • Jacqui Brough 3 years ago Reply

    Awww! She sounds like a little devil in the making which I think is great! The sassier they are as a child, the more they stand up for what they believe in when their older!

    You’re doing great and you’re so patient! Sounds like she will grow up to be a great young lady and you never know! One day she may make you a roast one day that you don’t want!

    admin 3 years ago Reply

    She certainly knows her own mind, which I love about her she is not one for following the crowd, I just hope it continues as she grows. I am going to enjoying giving her a taste of her own medicine when she is older x

  • Rebecca Smith 3 years ago Reply

    You are very patient! I used to do this a lot when I was younger.

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